Wakes in Swindon

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As a society, we dislike talking about death. Even more so with those close to us. Death of a loved one is ranked as one of life’s most stressful events as individuals are forced to deal with not only their grief but, endless decisions.

Therefore, we believe, in such circumstances, knowledge is power, and preparation is key. It will not remove the pain of loss, but, may help with a few of those difficult choices.

Below we have put together a few things to consider when arranging the wake of a loved one;

1/ Have that conversation

Many of us baulk at the idea of discussing death. However, the discomfort we may experience talking through a loved one’s options will be outweighed by our ability to uphold their wishes and swiftly make decisions in the time of difficulty.

2/ Funeral Director

The Funeral Director is central to all decisions when arranging a wake. Therefore, it is essential that you are not only comfortable but, trusting in your somewhat brief relationship. You will be asked numerous questions at an extremely vulnerable time. Take someone with you, take your time and if you are not sure, ask for help. Remember Funeral Directors are professionally trained and accustomed to customers vulnerability and questions.

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3/ Memorials 

For creative and beautiful memorials that reflect the uniqueness of your loved one, look no further than Swindon Memorials, offering expert craftsmanship and beautiful memorials.

4/ The order of service

The order of service serves as a guide to the funeral service and is vital in preparations. It need not be sombre, but respectful. Represent the deceased, how you believe, they would like to be remembered. Bearing in mind that the service will be read by your loved one’s friends and family and will serve as a keepsake.

It is a collective job and may cause a clash of opinion as emotions run high. So, take your time and try where possible to compromise.

For many families, bereavement is one of the most traumatic events they will encounter. That's why Hillier Funeral Service have their highly trained staff who will assist you professionally in the practical issues of arranging the funeral and will support you with compassion through this difficult time.

3/ Flowers

Be clear with guests if you wish for floral donations or alternative charity contributions. Floral decorations can lift the room on a difficult day and hold significant meaning to those present. Depending on the circumstances and personality of the person passed you may deem the day as one of celebration and wish to convey the message through floral tributes. Seek advice on seasonal flowers and alternatives if you are unable to meet your exacting requirements.

4/ Music

Music can strike the tone and atmosphere of any occasion and applies no less to a funeral. It can evoke a person’s personality and provide an insight into the life that they have lived. We have all been sobbing at a funeral after a eulogy to be then faced with an uplifting song choice on our departure changing our tears into a smile. Music is personal, take your time to make the right decision for your loved one.

5/ Food

After such an occasion, simple and comforting food is required. The kettle will consistently be on the boil, dependent on the number of your guests it may be prudent to consider an urn. Many supermarkets provide pre-prepared sandwiches and buffet options. If you prefer to prepare your own, accept help bring close family and friends on board to assist. If additional guests offer to help, ask them to bake. A cake is always welcome, even more so at a wake.

Many venues in Swindon offer wake packages to take away the stress of planning. Here's a few we recommend:

Wrag Barn Golf Club - The Clubhouse at Wrag Barn Golf Club is a versatile venue, catering to a multitude of events.  Upstairs, formal sit-down functions for up to 120 people are accommodated, with the capacity increasing to 150 for informal buffet-style parties. Ample free parking, including designated disabled parking near the clubhouse, is available in their large car park. Accessibility is ensured with the provision of a lift and disabled facilities within the clubhouse. Read more information here.

Lydiard Park Hotel - This Grade II listed historic landscape hosts a range of venues; from a large and versatile function suite and private dining rooms on the ground floor, to Georgian rooms with high ceilings and lots of natural light on the first floor. The hotel is situated on beautiful grounds and is an ideal location for loved ones to gather. Read more information here.

The Cricklade Club - This calm and relaxing cafe is located in the heart of Cricklade. They offer a beautiful, private and incredibly attentive celebration of life service. It's the perfect venue to gather with friends and family. The staff are extremely understanding to the certain circumstances and offer whatever you need in order to make the day a little easier. It's only £50 per hour which offers; three leather sofas, tables and chairs, unattended cloakroom area, mood lighting, stocked cash bar and bar staff. Please call 01793 299079 for further details.

Chiseldon House Hotel - The beautiful country house offers their gorgeous rooms to be hired for family and friends to gather to share memories in a private and peaceful place. They offer a 'celebration of life' package that includes a selection of sandwiches with the choice of 4 different fillings, an aray of cakes and an unlimited amount of tea and coffee. The staff are incredibly experienced for these certain circumstances and therefore, will be incredibly attentive to every guests needs. Please call 01793 741 010 for further details.

Stanton House Hotel - With many years of experience catering to families who have been recently bereaved, they understand that a caring nature is appreciated. There are four private function rooms that can be used and beautiful gardens in which you may enjoy a moment of quiet reflection. A variety of packages are available for you to choose from and include private room hire, a selection of food, tea and coffee, juice and a glass of wine. Contact 01793861779 or [email protected].