Getting Back in the Game: Dating with Confidence

Getting back in the dating game may not feel as easy for some as it does for others, depending on many things such as experience, age, family situation, and location.

Whether you’ve been single for a while, recently divorced or have just come out of a long-term relationship, dating can be exciting but can also be a little scary or overwhelming for some too. What happens if you want to get back in the dating game but your confidence is low? Here are some great tips to give you a gentle nudge in the right direction.

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Positive Affirmations

Most people will have had a relationship that did not live up to how we wanted it. Sometimes bitter endings, broken hearts or ongoing frustration in an unfulfilling relationship can leave us convinced that Mr or Mrs Right does not exist. This is not true but building up your confidence to make you feel worthy of a good and healthy relationship is important if you are viewing love negatively. Positive affirmations can be an excellent tool in improving your confidence, self-esteem and self-worth. You can make up your own positive affirmations but here are a few to get you started:

• I AM worthy of being loved and I am worthy of loving someone
• I WILL have a relationship where there is mutual respect
• I CAN have a positive and loving relationship

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Focusing on the Future

So many people focus too much on past relationships, believing that what they have experienced in the past will be the same for the future. Consider that anyone you meet on a date will not be the same as your ex-partner and it’s very important to remember not to compare or judge a person based on your past. Of course, if you get alarm bells that make you want to proceed with caution, then it is understandable, but make sure what you are feeling is real and not an expectation. Some people feel more confident in dating when they have had psychic readings because a good psychic will be able to link in with your past and your current life, giving you reassuring insight to your love life for the future. You can have a face to face reading or choose a reputable online psychic company such as TheCircle. It’s important to focus on the future and not let past let-downs tarnish your view on love. Release the past and look forward to a stable, loving relationship that could potentially be long-term.

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No Pressure!

Getting back in the dating game is usually a bit scary for everyone at first! Before the internet, dating websites and even old-school dating agencies, dating was often only ever initiated if you met that person face to face. Now, there are many ways to meet potential partners, which is essentially changing the dating game. We have dating websites and dating apps that make it easier for people to meet, giving you time to get to know them before you physically meet up. These are popular because there is no pressure to meet a person face to face; instead, you can spend days, weeks, or months chatting and learning about each other before you decide to meet up. With this in mind, even if it feels a bit daunting, you can take internet or app dating at your own pace.