How to Improve Your Marriage: Post COVID!

Have you ever wondered what the secret to a long and happy marriage is? Some people believe it’s all about having your own space, while others claim that it’s about allowing there to be imperfections. Every couple is different, so what works for you might not work for someone else.

The first step to improving your marriage is acknowledging that there is room for improvement. You might not yet know which area is lacking, but knowing that something is missing is an important step.

Some couples give up on a marriage when they feel that something is missing. This fails to acknowledge that the best marriages take hard work and determination to be successful. 

If you’re ready to put in the work you may be able to save a marriage on the rocks. And if you’re proactive in your relationship, you may be able to keep your marriage on course and avoid the rocks entirely.

How to improve your marriage

What does an improved marriage look like to you? Common areas of concern for couples include:

• Sex and intimacy
• Communication
• Quality time spent together
• Time spent apart
• Misaligned goals and aspirations
• Failing to compromise

These problems might not send you to the divorce courts straight away, but if left unchecked, they could leave you wondering if the grass is greener elsewhere. If you want to improve your marriage in any of these areas, try these tips.

Work on communication

Communication is a skill that we all assume we’re experts in. The reality is that many of us struggle to communicate. Instead of being direct in what we say, we beat around the bush, drop hints and expect our partner to just know what it is we’re trying to say. And instead of listening, we immediately start formulating our defence. 

When communication breaks down, the relationship is likely to follow. Learn to actively listen to what your partner is saying and to speak directly about what you want to strengthen your marriage.

Experience new things together

Creating new memories together is an excellent way to keep the spark alive. At the start of your relationship, you were probably very adventurous and tried lots of new things together. As time goes by, things can stagnate and you might forget why you’re even together.

By exploring new hobbies, trying new things and experiencing things for the first time, you’ll be able to create lots of new memories that strengthen your relationship. You don’t have to be very adventurous – because let’s face it, skydiving isn’t for everyone – even something as simple as trying a new craft together can be great fun. Whether it becomes a regular pastime or something that you can laugh at in the future, you will have created a stronger bond.

Spice things up

When intimacy is your problem, you need to find a way to break out of the routine. Remember that intimacy problems can be caused by many issues, including stress and health problems. Address these problems first before you start to try to spice things up.

If you’re feeling a little vanilla between the sheets, you could suggest a plan to introduce something new in the bedroom. This could include role-playing, watching something kinky together, exploring new positions or even just taking it out of the bedroom. Learn to be more spontaneous and allow the moment to get away from you.

Learn to love alone time

As much as spending quality time together is essential for a strong marriage, you also need to learn how to spend time apart. Learning to love your own company is an essential part of being married. You need to be self-sufficient so that you can spend time away from your partner without feeling anxious. 

Learning to enjoy alone time is an excellent way to keep jealousy under control. It’s common to feel jealous when your partner is turning to other people for entertainment or support. But when you can both spend time alone without your imagination going wild, you’ll find your marriage is a lot stronger and can withstand more external pressures.

Closing thoughts

A strong marriage takes hard work and commitment, but if you’re both willing to put in the work and find a compromise, there is no reason you shouldn't be able to create a strong and resilient marriage.